Comments on: 3 Questions to ask yourself when faced with saying yes or no https://gettingthingsdone.com/2011/08/3-questions-to-ask-yourself-when-faced-with-saying-yes-or-no/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=3-questions-to-ask-yourself-when-faced-with-saying-yes-or-no David Allen's GTD® Methodology Mon, 03 Feb 2014 22:30:10 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 By: BradMc https://gettingthingsdone.com/2011/08/3-questions-to-ask-yourself-when-faced-with-saying-yes-or-no/#comment-3657 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 15:14:17 +0000 http://www.gtdtimes.com/2011/08/30/#comment-3657 In #2, Saying No Eloquently, I don’t think the example you gave would generally get much respect. I had a co-worker answer me almost exactly like that once, and while it was better than a simple “no”, it still felt like some kind of standard response, and like being blown off. I felt that if that person came to me with the same kind of request, I would have given them at least some more attention regardless of how busy I was.

I would say to at least provide some kind of explanation of what is commanding so much of your attention that you can’t be bothered to even give a small amount of thought about whatever request was made. Maybe then the person making the help request will be able to understand a little about how and why you are overwhelmed, and then you’ll have a chance at getting that respect you mentioned. Might be subtle, but makes a big difference if you really care about what the other person thinks.

]]> By: eclectischinontwikkeling.nl https://gettingthingsdone.com/2011/08/3-questions-to-ask-yourself-when-faced-with-saying-yes-or-no/#comment-3656 Wed, 07 Sep 2011 09:25:53 +0000 http://www.gtdtimes.com/2011/08/30/#comment-3656 Although these are good questions, to me it seems they are asked in the wrong order, and the question “is this something I would want to do?” is missing. I would first ask myself question 3 “am I the right person for this job?”, then if this is something I would want to do (which can be tied to if you are the right person for the job: if it is something you really hate, probably there is someone to be found who doesn’t and is therefore more capable of the task at hand), then the capacity-question, and at last I would address how to say no, if I want to say no. If you are afraid of saying no or don’t know how to, that is a skill you should work on: not a reason to say yes.

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